Waking up with a sore back

Our body gives us feedback on the conflicts in our mind, by reveling discomfort and illness on a physical level.

As we heal conflicts in our mind, we observe the healing of corresponding illness in our body. We understand that the illness was caused by our mind.

We begin to look for conflicts in our mind as a cause of the illness in our body. We consider signs (observable by others) and symptoms (not externally noticeable) and interpret them in terms of mind conflict. We can also meditate – in the traditional, investigative sense – on the physical outcomes, and follow them back to the mind conflict that causes them.

But, physical signs and symptoms don’t always have a direct cause in mind conflict.

There are some obvious examples, such as injuries from physical accidents. It’s easy for us to identify the direct cause as physical. The direct cause is obviously not mind conflict – yet mind conflict may have caused or contributed to the accident – such as in rage, or uncharacteristic carelessness.

There are more subtle causes and effects. In the blog title I refer to my example. Chemicals in some polyester and cotton product additives, can give me a sore spine. I wake up in discomfort, and also drowsiness. Yet, 5 minutes after getting up, the symptoms are gone. The direct cause of my symptoms is physical, immunological – a kind of allergy. Mind conflict may be a cause of my immunological reaction, but this is indirect – and currently, unresolved speculation.

I partly identified the chemical cause by systematic removal and reintroduction of different fabric items, one at a time, until I could identify the kind of fabric that cause my reaction. It’s a time consuming process.

The cause of physical signs and symptoms is not always directly by mind conflict. Sometimes it is obviously a mind or a physical cause. Sometimes it is unclear, and investigation is required to identify the cause. We may only determine the cause after observing that the physical manifestation quickly disappears after some mind healing work is done.

Waking up with a sore back

The Secret of Happiness

Happiness is what we have when we have nothing to be unhappy about.

Happiness is the natural human state of mind.

Yet many of us don’t have much happiness, and we don’t really know why.

Yet, we can choose to be unhappy, or choose to not be unhappy. It is something we can have total power over.

Those of us who are unhappy, often are unhappy about things we cannot change. It is as if we WANT to be unhappy, and have chosen the most effective way to be unhappy!

Perhaps we feel that life is meant to be unhappy – or that we deserve to be unhappy. I wholeheartedly assert that these 2 beliefs are totally false! – they will keep us from happiness as surely as gravity holds us to the earth.

Being unhappy about past events – that will surely keep us unhappy. And for what purpose? We can’t change it! So the only reason to be unhappy about it, is for the purpose of being unhappy!

Being unhappy about other people is another unfallible way to be unhappy. We can only truly change ourselves, so let’s give up on the impossible and return to happiness.

So – how to stop being unhappy about things we can’t change?

We can search within ourselves – to find those thoughts and beliefs that give us unhappy feelings, and re-decide those beliefs. If we find past versions of ourselves, trapped at the source of the unhappiness, we can rescue them, reunite them with our true self in the now. If we find a belief as the source of unhappiness, we can expose that belief to our current wisdom and logic, and change it to match the truth according to the evidence of our present – rather than the emotion of the past.

It took time to build up our sources of unhappiness. One by one we piled them up. And one by one we can remove them. We can decide to persevere, to make the effort to clean up the mess in our mind’s house.

Happiness is our rightful state of mind. Our birthright. Happiness awaits our effort to discard those things that keep us from being our true selves.

The Secret of Happiness

The mind must choose to follow the heart

I was laying back, thinking about parts of my mind that wont yet accept the authority of my hearts guidance. I suggested to my heart that it just force those parts of my mind to obey.

My heart immediately caused me to understand that it cannot, it is not allowed to do that.
The mind must heal itself, and choose to follow the heart. It cannot be forced. Forced cooperation is no cooperation at all.
Only the mind that has chosen to follow the hearts guidance – a united mind, void of internal conflict – truly has the capacity to follow the hearts guidance.
An unwilling subject is an incompetent subject. It cannot be any other way.

So, the mind must be healed and united, by seeking out and resolving internal conflicts.
For this process, an essential tool is provided: Emotion, the internal conflict seeker.

The mind must choose to follow the heart

Trauma and Recovery

When we suffer the trauma of abuse or other experiences that are overwhelmingly unpleasant, we dissociate. This is a natural mechanism that allows us to survive trauma.
But, dissociation is only the first half of surviving trauma.

Later, when the danger has passed, we must reassociate. We must return to the trauma in our mind and rejoin with the emotional effect of it. In this way we can bring together the parts of our mind that was split by the traumatic experience.

Once rejoined, that part of our mind can again function normally and contribute to our improved survival. We can get on with life.

This mechanism to deal with trauma is quite amazing. We naturally and unconsciously separate our response to trauma into 2 pieces in our mind. Its automatic. The physical experience cant be postponed, but the emotional effect in the mind can be separated and put safely aside. Later, the emotional effect, which was separated and postponed, can be dealt with at our convenience. Its so great we have this naturally inbuilt mechanism to protect our mind from the full effect of traumatic experiences.

When the trauma is too great, we simply can’t cope with both the physical and emotional trauma simultaneously. Splitting allows us to cope, and later we can return in physical safety to complete the process of survival.

Yet, if we dont return later and rejoin the separated parts of our mind that hold the trauma, we remain ‘damaged’ (uncompleted) and cannot return fully to our lives.
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I want to thank Athena and Bobbi from traumarecoveryuniversity.com for inspiring this realization in me. I was watching their 2 hour video special on accepting the reality of abuse. As always, their videos inspire light bulbs in my understanding.

Trauma and Recovery

Heart: want, Mind: should

The heart only cares about want, and not want – it is clear and direct, unambiguous.

The mind cares about should – and shouldn’t – it presents many conflicting points of view, filling your life with a confusing audiovisual stream, accompanied by a confrontational dialogue of words.

Only the heart can present clarity in the midst of this chaotic mindset, never needing words to communicate its wishes.

Heart: want, Mind: should

Justice and our place in the world

Its not hard to notice the injustices in the world. Those who politically control society care only about staying in power and will commit any crime to maintain their power. Most organizations who claim to fight for justice are actually surviving off injustice and wont do anything that would really bring justice or threaten those in power who commit crimes.

We are brought up to be good and fight for justice. We react emotionally to the selected injustices that are presented to us for the purpose of usurping our reactions. Those in power control the media and restrict our awareness of their crimes. In this way they direct our responses and reactions so that we use up our ‘justice energy’ without achieving anything.

This is a game of ‘cat and mouse’. Stop playing.

Each of us has a desire to follow our heart, and in doing so, we use our power in ways that truly change ourselves and the world around us. Yet most of us dont follow our hearts, but live within the restrictions placed on us. In this way we cannot change ourselves or the world. The universe has not given everyone the role of fighting all injustice in all faraway places – this is a role that only suits those in power.

The universe has placed us in the situation where we can exert our power and follow our hearts. This is the choice that we have before us. Use our energy to find a way to follow our hearts in the world we are in. Or waste our energy trying to change a faraway place. If the universe wanted us to change a faraway place, we would be in that place. We are in the place we are because that is the place we have the opportunity to change – by changing the way we live in it.

The world is now in a time of great injustice and conflict. It is a stage in the cycles of earthly existence and cannot be avoided. It is also a sign that humans are resisting change. The chaos is required for the human race to develop, to learn from the mistake of resisting change and growth. The universe will destroy any part of itself that refuses to grow and change.

For individuals, the lesson is to let go of the fight that is not ours. Our hearts will tell us what is our fight, and give us the power to win. Individuals that understand the need to grow and change along with the universe will find themselves somehow protected from the chaos. Individuals that refuse to grow and change will find the chaos surrounding them, physically or mentally.

Justice and our place in the world