Welcome to Earth.
Choose no more than 2:
- Nice body
- Nice face
- Nice heart
Welcome to Earth.
Choose no more than 2:
We entertain delusions regularly.
We get drunk or high, or just in a particular mood, and imagine ourselves as powerful, influential, great. Then we recall all we have learned from our family, and education. Then we get beaten down, and imagine ourselves as powerless. A familiar pattern.
We are taught to believe we have been having delusions. Let’s think about these delusions! – and carefully remember those who taught us that they were delusions.
Delusions of powerlessness are clearly a lower limit, an identifiable bottom for the trough of our self-limitation.
If we were to truly follow our delusions of powerlessness, we would shrink from the world and retract our natural influence. Wouldn’t we? Is there any doubt about the outcome? The answer is clear, even if we don’t investigate. We choose to be nothing … and we are nothing.
But our delusions of power are different. They have no limit. If we were to truly follow our higher self, our ‘delusions’ … and courageously forge ahead along the path suggested, we will achieve something great.
We can say what is nothing – what is failure, lack … desperation. But who can say what is the limit of our own possibility? Who can say what is the expected outcome of … risk.
Both extremes are there for each of us to pursue.
Do we need drugs to entertain our true power? Do we need to steep ourselves in the negativity of other’s messages, to explore our powerlessness?
By investigating both, we can understand that our path lies between the two impossible extremes.
And if we follow our delusions of power? What then? Are we punished by the world? – or rewarded? There is only one way to find out. The answer can only be found by investigation.
The consequence of powerlessness is easily predicted. Worthless. It is resignation. You want that? Take it – and its yours – for as long as you can bear it.
Power is adventurous, unpredictable, mysterious. Valuable. It is not earned. It is seized.
Which do you choose?
Sorry is a hard word to genuinely say, as is the phrase "I forgive you" – For a good reason. It causes the relinquishment of an attachment, to some degree. And that requires real work in the physical world, on an emotional level. It is often an uncomfortable or difficult experience – that is the nature of relinquishing attachments.
When we harm another in any way, an attachment is created between us, that matches our perception of the harm done. The perception may be unbalanced. The one perceiving the greater harm, puts more energy into the attachment – either by their feeling of hurt, or guilt. The energy that creates the attachment matches that required to break it.
The 4 ways to relinquish the attachment are: to say sorry, to forgive, to ask for forgiveness and to ask for an apology. Either can take the initiative in relinquishment – while being clear about the event that is referred to.
Using these phrases to manipulate, is a betrayal that leads to more harm. The attachment will persist and continue to influence the lives of both.
Feeling sorry or hurt, without saying something is a good way to suffer for a long time. It means that some part of you, a part that has a greater authority, doesnt want to relinquish the attachment. You could suffer in this way for years, when saying something could make you feel better in moments.
After being harmed by another, we often feel resentment, and desire revenge or reparation. Yet this leaves us in a state of suffering – we experience negative emotions. Combative cultures support this by stating that forgiveness should not be given unless earned – thereby generating the collective resentment that is required to remain combative – causing everyone to obtain reparations by coercion.
It is wise for us to alert the one who has done the harm to us, of the consequence of their actions. But it is unwise to depend on them to end our suffering, when we are able to do that for ourselves. There are many actions of harm that will never be apologized for, and we dont need to reduce our own happiness over this. We can take the initiative to forgive, for our own sake. To forgive is not to condone or exempt someone of their debt. To forgive is to make ourselves let go of what is doing harm to ourselves.
Should we endlessly suffer negative feelings in response to being harmed? To do so is to punish ourselves for the harm that was done to us, even if we had no control over that experience. Certainly that is not a sensible or just solution. The strategy that delivers us the greatest happiness is the sensible one – and that is a strategy of forgiveness.
Every single human is capable of betrayal in order to serve their interests. Betrayal is common. Life brings circumstances to all of us that may lead us into survival mode, where we may betray the trust of others, in order to retrieve what we perceive as our safety – rightly or wrongly.
Some of us go further. Rather than just protect our safety or the safety of those we love, we will also betray others to preserve our comfort zone or reputation. This leads to greater problems in the future. We show the others in our lives that we will betray them for trivial reasons, and we will lose their trust.
Even worse, there are some that intentionally betray for personal gain. These toxic people generally harm the lives of all who allow it. Those of us who have been systematically betrayed as children are susceptible to continuing betrayal as adults, even to subconsciously seek it out.
Our response to those who betray us is often to exclude them from our lives, more or less. We protect our own safety and comfort zones from the betrayal of trust. Protecting our comfort zone from betrayal is a legitimate action.
The amount of betrayal we tolerate can only be determined on a case by case basis. Perhaps we are too intolerant of betrayal and find ourselves without enough people in our lives.
Some relationships must be tested by betrayal before they can become strong. How each one deals with the betrayal controls the outcome of the test.
There are different kinds of betrayal. Theres betrayal in the heat of the moment that is later regretted. There is betrayal caused by a lack of care or concern. Theres betrayal caused by greed and other fears of lack. It’s a skill to judge the intention and appropriate response to each case. One who doesn’t show remorse when confronted with their act of betrayal, is not likely to avoid future betrayal.
Perhaps we are too tolerant of betrayal and we find ourselves keeping toxic people in our lives – those that willingly harm us for their own gain. Its best to find a middle ground, where we have enough people in our lives and none are toxic.
Our body gives us feedback on the conflicts in our mind, by reveling discomfort and illness on a physical level.
As we heal conflicts in our mind, we observe the healing of corresponding illness in our body. We understand that the illness was caused by our mind.
We begin to look for conflicts in our mind as a cause of the illness in our body. We consider signs (observable by others) and symptoms (not externally noticeable) and interpret them in terms of mind conflict. We can also meditate – in the traditional, investigative sense – on the physical outcomes, and follow them back to the mind conflict that causes them.
But, physical signs and symptoms don’t always have a direct cause in mind conflict.
There are some obvious examples, such as injuries from physical accidents. It’s easy for us to identify the direct cause as physical. The direct cause is obviously not mind conflict – yet mind conflict may have caused or contributed to the accident – such as in rage, or uncharacteristic carelessness.
There are more subtle causes and effects. In the blog title I refer to my example. Chemicals in some polyester and cotton product additives, can give me a sore spine. I wake up in discomfort, and also drowsiness. Yet, 5 minutes after getting up, the symptoms are gone. The direct cause of my symptoms is physical, immunological – a kind of allergy. Mind conflict may be a cause of my immunological reaction, but this is indirect – and currently, unresolved speculation.
I partly identified the chemical cause by systematic removal and reintroduction of different fabric items, one at a time, until I could identify the kind of fabric that cause my reaction. It’s a time consuming process.
The cause of physical signs and symptoms is not always directly by mind conflict. Sometimes it is obviously a mind or a physical cause. Sometimes it is unclear, and investigation is required to identify the cause. We may only determine the cause after observing that the physical manifestation quickly disappears after some mind healing work is done.
Happiness is what we have when we have nothing to be unhappy about.
Happiness is the natural human state of mind.
Yet many of us don’t have much happiness, and we don’t really know why.
Yet, we can choose to be unhappy, or choose to not be unhappy. It is something we can have total power over.
Those of us who are unhappy, often are unhappy about things we cannot change. It is as if we WANT to be unhappy, and have chosen the most effective way to be unhappy!
Perhaps we feel that life is meant to be unhappy – or that we deserve to be unhappy. I wholeheartedly assert that these 2 beliefs are totally false! – they will keep us from happiness as surely as gravity holds us to the earth.
Being unhappy about past events – that will surely keep us unhappy. And for what purpose? We can’t change it! So the only reason to be unhappy about it, is for the purpose of being unhappy!
Being unhappy about other people is another unfallible way to be unhappy. We can only truly change ourselves, so let’s give up on the impossible and return to happiness.
So – how to stop being unhappy about things we can’t change?
We can search within ourselves – to find those thoughts and beliefs that give us unhappy feelings, and re-decide those beliefs. If we find past versions of ourselves, trapped at the source of the unhappiness, we can rescue them, reunite them with our true self in the now. If we find a belief as the source of unhappiness, we can expose that belief to our current wisdom and logic, and change it to match the truth according to the evidence of our present – rather than the emotion of the past.
It took time to build up our sources of unhappiness. One by one we piled them up. And one by one we can remove them. We can decide to persevere, to make the effort to clean up the mess in our mind’s house.
Happiness is our rightful state of mind. Our birthright. Happiness awaits our effort to discard those things that keep us from being our true selves.
I was laying back, thinking about parts of my mind that wont yet accept the authority of my hearts guidance. I suggested to my heart that it just force those parts of my mind to obey.
My heart immediately caused me to understand that it cannot, it is not allowed to do that.
The mind must heal itself, and choose to follow the heart. It cannot be forced. Forced cooperation is no cooperation at all.
Only the mind that has chosen to follow the hearts guidance – a united mind, void of internal conflict – truly has the capacity to follow the hearts guidance.
An unwilling subject is an incompetent subject. It cannot be any other way.
So, the mind must be healed and united, by seeking out and resolving internal conflicts.
For this process, an essential tool is provided: Emotion, the internal conflict seeker.