The fallacy of hopelessness

Most of us have experienced the feeling that there is no hope, no way out of this “mess”.

This occurs when our mind is unable to think of a way out of a situation it finds awful. our set of beliefs about life and the situation, cause a dead end. we are stuck.
essential for this feeling, is the inability to turn to the heart for the solution. the heart always has a solution, a way out, and it is only by being really disconnected that we have the possibility of feeling hopeless.

In this situation, the mind is totally wrong.

the feeling of hopelessness is actually a built-in mecahnism to repair faulty beliefs. yet faulty beliefs can be used to disrupt this mechanism. the human mind is a complicated thing, because it has the capacity to hold a large number of logical inconsistencies – a very useful ability you will inevitably appreciate.

the way to get out of this experience of hoplessness is to allow the emotions to do the job they do so well. we can express those emotions in a place that allows it to be done freely. but, without letting the mind trick us into taking any action while we are letting the emotions repair our mind. decisions are not to be made during this process.

generally, at some stage in the process, there will be tears. This interesting biological behavior seems to be associated with a state of super-thinking – im not sure how to describe it in another way. While crying, there is a capacity to destroy false beliefs that cannot be matched by any therapy i know. Crying has a great influence on our beliefs and state of mind. Specifically, things we are attached to or that we think are important, no longer hold us trapped. We are able to let go of things that we couldnt let go before crying.

We need observe only once the connection between the feeling of hopelessness and the subsequent healing of the mind from false beliefs. From that moment, we never need to worry about feeling hopeless, because we now recognise it as a precursor to healing and improvement in our lives. This doesnt mean we will never get stuck in this feeling again, but it certainly means we will quickly remember to let our emotions do the work, and start our healing.

The fallacy of hopelessness

the myth of thinking big

most of us are brought up to live small lives and believe that big and great things are beyond us. this belief only stops us from following our heart.

if we are a street cleaner, we have placed ourselves in a role at that place in the social hierarchy. the same if we are a leader. it is the role we have chosen to play. we have placed ourselves according to our beliefs of what we are capable of. beliefs that are put onto us by others. because we place ourselves according to our learned beliefs, it is no surprise that we are unhappy and unsuited to our roles.

isnt living according to the beliefs of others a great achievement? that role requires the maintenance of so much denial in opposition to the truth and reality all around. street cleaner or leader, if we play a role according to the beliefs of others, it is difficult to sustain, and inevitably our attempt collapses. it becomes obvious we are not suited to that role.

big or small, it is irrelevant. we are entwined with the universe and scale is not a limiting factor unless we believe it is. these big or great things are not the product of a person, rather the person places themselves in a role, a niche in the world, that is no more or less great or difficult than other roles.

whatever we do is ‘big’, because of the interconnectedness of all things. our heart can handle anything. when we choose to follow our heart, we stop thinking about what is possible, or about what we are capable of. we act according to our heart, knowing the universe will take care of the results. we place ourselves in the role required by our heart, to manifest what our heart wishes to manifest.

if we act according to our inner inspiration, that will place us in the role required by our heart. we don’t need to think big, or small – just true. we are already the universe – limitations of scale do not apply here.

the myth of thinking big

Blaming other people for your misfortune

Blaming other people for your misfortune is the most certain way to preserve your misfortune. For example, blaming the rich for your lack of money is the most certain way to remain poor. Where did you learn to blame others for your lack? – identify the source and remove it from your life, because it is the enemy of your success.

Blaming other people for your misfortune

The difficult days, and living the lie.

For some, the new moon brings a time of dissatisfaction, of no longer being excited about what is coming. A time of wanting to discard and destroy, rather than create and acquire. Yet others dont need a new moon to experience this phase of the human creative cycle.

Most of use dislike this experience.

But, take a step back, and see the outcome of this part of the human creative cycle. We have a good opportunity to discard what we dont need, we close doors to parts of our lives that are no longer serving us. We generally clear out a lot of stuff, get rid of unnecessary things. From this we get a sense of relief and satisfaction, of clarity and motivation to move forward again. We naturally feel more positive after following this process.

However, we dislike the feeling that leads us to take action that improves our life. It seems illogical. It certainly is!

We have been taught to believe that this is a feeling that should be avoided, and we grow up observing adults doing everything they can to avoid this feeling, so as to continue a lifestyle that is not serving them, just to avoid making trouble. We simply take on that attitude as a habit. Usually, it is the only example we have the opportunity to observe.

Observe that feeling more closely. There is nothing about it that is unpleasant, except the expectation that it will lead to unpleasant things. It wants us to say “I dont want this anymore” yet we are socialized to not say such things. Not only do we avoid telling our truth, we keep those things we dont want in our lives, by convincing ourselves that it was mis-thinking to not want them. We can only do this by not admitting the truth to ourselves.

Its not that we think that telling the truth obligates us to change. It is that telling the truth makes it impossible to continue living the lie. Deep down, we know:

The truth, once told, leads to unstoppable change.

When we feel obligated to live the lie – trapped by expectation, the belief that we should continue in the way we have chosen, to fulfill the commitment we made – whatever the reason, we must lie to ourselves to make it possible to prevent change.

This is a trap. Can we prevent change by refusing to admit the truth to ourselves? Change comes to our lives no matter what we do! We can be honest with ourselves and live happily with the changes that naturally come, or we can try to live a lie, and struggle with every change that comes along, wearing ourselves down until we can no longer continue. Living a lie has a time limit. Living the truth does not.

When that feeling comes to you and you are dissatisfied with your current situation, be relieved that another opportunity to fix life’s problems has come along. Its a good feeling, and when followed, leads to a better life. Rather than being afraid to tell your loved ones about your change of heart, know that telling your truth then helps them to free themselves from their self-imposed censorship. the relationship can then be renewed, and re-energised, rather than kept barely alive with stale habits.

The difficult days, and living the lie.

To think is to create, therefore our thinking is restricted

It is obvious to us that we cannot create anything without thinking it first. We easily recognize that thinking is required for our actions.

it is not so believable to us that absolutely everything in our lives is the consequence of our thinking. Yet we dont do anything to find out what the truth is. Spiritual teachers say that we are responsible for everything that happens to us, by our thinking – that is, by the thoughts we believe. Not everything we think about, happens. But we also dont believe all our thoughts. Those thoughts that we believe, the ones that we expect are true, are the ones that create our lives.

Most of these beliefs we pick up as young children, when we have not yet developed critical thinking. We just believe what the adults around us say. If those things are negative messages, then we believe negative things about ourselves, be it true or false. If they are positive, then have a positive self-image, be it true or false. Most of us live our lives by these beliefs, and unknowingly allow ourselves to be limited by these beliefs. We pass them on to our children, not realizing we are passing on our own limitations. Not realizing the cause of our own limitations before placing those limits on the next generation.

It is only when our lives become unbearable, that we seek other ways of thinking. Instead of exploring the idea that we are the ones responsible for our circumstances – even if it is manifested according the the rules of others – we seek outside of ourselves for the answers. Then we are at the mercy of anyone who wishes to manipulate us for their personal gain. This is exactly what will happen.

We will encounter the idea that we are manifesting from within, and we should look within for the cause and the solution. Yet we will avoid looking within, because we know it will be a greater discomfort – such discomfort we have locked away there. However, through seeking externally, we inevitably bring to ourselves greater suffering than we are avoiding. Finally, when all other options seem exhausted, we begin to look within, and begin to change our thinking, our beliefs, and our lives.

Yet we may still not realise that we are creating everything in our lives. Despite change coming from looking within, and stagnation coming from looking without, we determinedly avoid taking responsibility for our experience in life – because of firmly held childhood beleifs. The beliefs that arise from the exercise of authority by the adults around us. Our first understanding of the world is that we are not in control, we cannot do as we wish, that others make us live in a certain way. Our thinking is shaped by this experience of early childhood disempowerment, and all forms of human authority take advantage of this programming.

Our beliefs that we are not responsible, not influential, not allowed, stem from our early childhood experience. Very few people ever realise that it even happened, even fewer recover from it. The natural time for humans to recover from these limiting beliefs is in teenage years. If this opportunity is not taken, it is extremely unlikely that a person will ever get another chance. That is why high school is so important for producing subservient lifetime employees – that is its purpose. The time that is meant for breaking out of childhood mental shackles is spent being herded from CLASS-room to CLASS-room, being punished for resisting illegitimate authority, and being taught that the absence of freedom is the path to a good life.

Despite having our freedom of thought taken from us, we always have the opportunity to regain it. Yet it comes at the temporary expense of our personal comfort. It comes only through examining ourselves and confronting our own beliefs, exposing the discomfort within. For those who commit to this process, the benefits are true freedom and happiness. For those who cannot take this step in life, increasing bitterness and regret.

It is never too late to begin.

To think is to create, therefore our thinking is restricted

Desiring the return of past conditions

Past events and conditions may represent happier experiences than is usual in our lives.
However, while we dwell in the past, we are not manifesting new things in our present. Our minds are trapped.
Yet our minds are not desiring a return of the past. That is a misinterpretation. Our minds connect the past events with conflicts in our present beliefs. The event shows us what needs to be realized. This is a natural self-cleaning mechanism of the mind. It is meant to be used.
Once the lesson of the past event is learned, and the conflict is resolved, the event will be forgotten, because it is no longer needed.
Once we resolve conflicts represented by past events, our mind is more free to focus on the present, and we can manifest our hearts desires once again.

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the essence of inner peace

Whatever we cannot accept in the world is exactly what we cannot accept in ourselves.
It is not within our ability to fix all the things in the world that we dislike. Neither is it our role in life.
Once we observe ourselves, we can learn the beliefs behind the disapproval, and their source. Then we can change those beliefs and be at peace with the world.
Once we are at peace with the world, we can then see our path and role in life. Then we can enjoy the excitement of living.

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